It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart

Welcome, dear reader!

I’ve created this page of chapter links just for you. You’ll find downloads, templates and references from my book, It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together without Growing Apart


Chapter 3 – Communication: Kindness and Love Languages

Read the full article, “I Wasn’t Treating My Husband Fairly And It Wasn’t Fair“.

Do Chapman’s Love Language Quiz

Listen to Zig Ziglar share marriage advice from his book, Courtship After Marriage.

Chapter 4 – Communication: Love Agreements

Listen to Betsy and Warren’s Love Contract

Get started on YOUR Love Agreement. Download Love Agreement Template v.1

Chapter 5 – The Division of Labour: Fairness and Respect

Divide up the household duties in a mutually satisfying way. Download a Household Chore List

Read the article, “Couples Who Share Housework Have The Most Sex And Best Sex Lives“.

Chapter 7 – Money, It’s A Kick

Download one of “5 Household Budget Templates That Will Help If You Actually Stick With It.” Let me know if you find a better one.

Chapter 9 – Living Together Versus Marriage: How Committed Are You?

Read “Why We Really Give Engagement Rings” by Scott M Stanley, Ph.D. It is actually two articles.

Chapter 10 – Covering Your Ass(ets)

Here’s a link to a sample Cohabitation Agreement for Canadian citizens. Different provinces/states/countries have different rules and regulations. I take no responsibility for usage. Please consult your own lawyer.

Chapter 18 – Heal Your wounds. Claim Your Power. Get More Love.

Read Nick Carpenter’s article, “Rock Climbing Saved My Life: A Veteran’s Struggle with PTSD“.

Chapter 21 – Vulnerability

Watch Brené Brown’s TED talk on Vulnerability (20 minutes).